How Colleges have Ruined the College Admission Process for Parents

Bulk emails have made it far too easy for colleges to spam parents in an attempt to influence their children on which higher education location to choose

keyboard with a graduation hat and the word “admissions” on the return key
keyboard with a graduation hat and the word “admissions” on the return key

I woke up early on Veterans’ Day. I had done a lot of exercise (well, for me anyways) on Sunday afternoon and gone to sleep early. My high school senior had the day off, so they were sleeping in.

I woke up, made a double mocha, and settled back in bed to read my email as I always do on weekdays before I head off to work. And that is how I found out that my child had been admitted to one of her schools of choice.

Email screen shot inviting prospective student to attend event that is exclusively for admitted students
Email screen shot inviting prospective student to attend event that is exclusively for admitted students

Join us and fellow admitted students at <UNIVERSITY> the email screamed excitedly!!!

  • You promised the person who brought you mail cookies if they rang the doorbell when they dropped off the mail, and a larger bribe (usually involving a parent’s trip to the liquor store) if they put your house at the beginning of the route.
  • If you got a thin envelope, you knew it held a rejection letter.
  • If you got a thick one, it contained enrollment and housing materials (remember — no Internet) which is why it was thick.

I find it oddly unnerving that the announcement that my child had been accepted to a particular university came from an email notification *directly to me* from the university itself, before my child even had a chance to tell me. And while I am excited they got into one of the schools they wanted to attend, I was seriously saddened by missing the joy on their face and the sound of their voice from telling me themselves.

These notifications came automatically, courtesy (I believe) of either the Common App or one of the standardized testing companies — my child took both the SAT and the ACT so not sure which one. The common app is today all but essential for students who want to apply to several colleges and not have to repetitively enter the same demographic information and answer the same essay questions repeatedly. Somewhere along the way, my child entered my email address, and I got enrolled in this system without the ability to opt-out. And if I did give permission (maybe I did, this process started over a year ago), I certainly did NOT expect that this permission would include the college telling me that they had been accepted before my child could.

If I have the privilege to spend in excess of $150 K over the next four years, just let me opt out. That’s all I’m asking for.

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Accessibility Architect @ VMware. W3C Silver, ITI & IAAP GLC committees. Degrees in CS, law, business. Wheelchair user w/ a deaf daughter.

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